Bringing someone home before their funeral is an important part of the process of saying goodbye for some families, so we talk about what happens and explain what you need to know for this ritual often called a "home vigil" or "bringing them home". Here at Amanda-Louise Funeral Director Services, we carefully manage this process so that it is done respectfully and in a calm manner.
Here’s what typically happens, so you know what to expect.
What we do beforehand
If you have told us you want to have the coffin at home the night before the funeral, then there are some things we need to consider, for example:
- We will carry out a site visit to look at accessibiity ie from the road into your home, and then where you want to have the coffin placed
- We will talk to you if there will be complications due to access, and explore ways to overcome these
- Explain what the cost will be for this service
- Discuss whether you want the coffin to be open or closed
- Whether you want us to organise a minister or a celebrant to say some words at your home the night before the funeral
Arrival at the home
- Our funeral director and team arrive at an agreed time
- The coffin is brought in respectfully (often by 2, 4 or even 6 staff)
- They’ll place the coffin in a pre-agreed room (commonly a living room or room big enough to accommodate size of coffin)
They’ll position the coffin exactly how you want (e.g. facing a certain direction, near photos, etc.) access permitting.
Setting up the space
Before we leave, we'll usually:
- Place the coffin on a stand (called trestles)
- Ensure it’s stable and safely positioned
- Adjust lighting if needed
- Give guidance about the room temperature (keeping it cool)
You might already have to place on or near the coffin:
- Flowers
- Photos and/or drawings from younger family members
- Candles or personal items
This can become a very personal, peaceful space. Here at Amanda-Louise Funeral Services, we can organise flowers for you from our inhouse florists "Flowers At Number 3".
Viewing (if the coffin is open)
If you’ve arranged an open coffin, and is suitable to do so:
- Our funeral director will prepare everything beforehand
- We are likely to stay briefly to make sure you’re comfortable
- You’ll be shown how to gently close the lid if needed
If it’s closed, you can still sit with the coffin, talk, reflect, or hold a small gathering.
Time with your loved one
After our funeral team leaves, the time is yours.
Families often:
- Sit quietly, talk, or play music
- Invite close friends or relatives to visit
- Share stories or say personal goodbyes
- Include children in a calm, familiar setting
There’s no formal structure—it can be as simple or as ceremonial as you want.
Practical guidance we’ll give you
Before leaving, our funeral director will explain:
- Room temperature: keep it cool, avoid direct heat
- Safety: especially with candles or visitors
- Who to call if you have concerns overnight
- Not to move the coffin for your own safety and for your loved one's dignity
Because the body is in a sealed coffin (in most cases), there’s usually no special care required from you.
If you need help with deciding if you do want the coffin home the night before the funeral, or advice on funeral arrangements please contact us as we are here to help whenever you need us, wherever you are call 01643 800335
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