How to Write a Message of Condolence

How to Write a Message of Condolence

A heartfelt way to express your support and you are thinking of the bereaved is to send them a message of condolence. Whilst they can be extremely valued by the bereaved especially to reflect back on, it can sometimes be hard for the writer as to what to say.  Whilst there's an array of sympathy cards available to purchase, it doesn’t compare with a hand written note from the sender.

Our advice is to write out some ideas onto a blank piece of paper, or bullet point what you want to say or express. It may simply express your shock and sadness, to even memories that you had together.  Think about a start, middle and end to your condolence note, here some ideas:

Start - Set the Tone

Once you have got some ideas, then begin with saying how sorry you are to learn of the death of….. don’t forget to write 'Dear' and name the person

Middle - Memories

Then move onto expressing memories of their character or personality or of times shared together.

End - Support

Again, repeat the endearment of sorrow and offer any help you may wish to give. This could mean asking the bereaved out of their house, or help with gardening to even cooking them a meal for example. You may confirm whether you will be attending the funeral.

Sound Advice

Write your message as soon as you can. Be sincere. Be your voice and use words that you would when speaking to them. It doesn’t have to be an essay, just a few words sometimes is enough. Perhaps finish on a final note of ‘if you need me, Im just a phone call away…..’

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Here at Amanda-Louise Funeral Services, we are here to help families come to terms with their loss, as well as supporting them plan the funeral thats right for them. As well as caring for the person who has died, and their families, we continue to support bereaved families after the funeral with our social bereavement coffee afternoons. Please get in touch with us if you are interested in finding out more.

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